5 Responses to “Jane’s Family”

1. Tammi on July 29th, 2008 3:53 am

   I do not have any suggestions for you. However I can very much empathize. I have a sister who is Bipolar and does and behaves very similar to your kids. She is currently in a depressive stage and I am feeling like it to some degree is manupulative. The more depressed I am the more pathetic I can be the less I have to take responsibility for my life. I too have had it and am exhausted and have thought of severing all ties. She too is “really a difficult person for me to deal with. She is manipulative, very narcissistic, and a user of people, and frankly I too am tired of giving to her constantly.” She definitely “plays the relationship off and on game with me, and I am tired of it. If she gets mad, she too sever ties. sometimes for as long as two years or so, then she gets over it and yes usually she gets mad when she is a manic stage and I begin to call her on her crap. She stopped talking to me recently about a month ago and went around telling people we both know what a B—- I am. Then last Sunday she calls saying “I need help” and wants me to take her to the hospital. I pick her etc…. and now it’s the pathetic I’m so depressed I can’t function… pay my bills etc… I have so had it! I too work full time and am exhausted. I just cannot take it.

2. Anothermother on October 15th, 2008 2:49 am

   Sorry. I, too, can empathize. I have a 22-year-old bipolar daughter who lies and manipulates. You need to take care of yourself. You’ve done all you could.

3. Sheila on October 25th, 2008 4:13 am

   Boy, when I read all of your comments, I couldn’t believe it. I am in the very same boat presently. I have 3 kids, ages 29, 28 & 20 and all of them exhibit signs of Narcissism and Borderline Personality Disorder. Would you believe none of them are speaking to me right now because I am not voting for their choice of President? It is always something with all of them until they want money. My youngest daughter blew up at me 2 months ago because she didn’t like the Chinese restaurant I took her to for dinner; now this. At the same time, my Bipolar husband crashed today after days of being Hypomanic. I cannot find him tonight and who knows where he is. I am so tired of all of this crap. I just want some normalcy in my life. I am seriously considering divorcing my husband and just cutting off my ties with my kids permanently, and moving miles away to New England and starting over again. Any suggestions would be truly appreciated.

4. Anonymous on November 1st, 2008 8:42 pm

   WOW, same boat here. It is my sister that is driving the family nuts. She is completely right in everythign she does, according to her, and all of us are out to get her and take her children away. She is completely crazy and we want to severe all ties with her. She is nuts and we do not know what to do, or who to call. It is just insane.

5. Joe on November 2nd, 2008 2:08 pm

   Anonymous–

   Saying that your sister is “crazy” and “nuts” won’t make your family’s situation any better. You and other family members would be better off thinking of your sister as “ill.” Yes, the brain can become ill, and unfortunately, when it does, it can lead to all sorts of behaviors that make it extremely difficult to be around the person.

   You have to keep in mind, however, that these are symptoms of an illness.

   Assuming your sister is bipolar, she needs medical treatment, not to be ostracized by her own family. When a family member suffers an illness, it’s time for family members to step up and help. In the case of a mental illness, when your loved one is likely to resist getting the treatment she needs, it’s a whole lot more difficult, but it’s no less necessary.

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