Comments on: Growing Up with a Parent with Mental Illness http://finkshrink.com/blog/children/growing-up-with-a-parent-with-mental-illness.html Information and support Sat, 05 Jul 2008 19:45:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 By: Joe http://finkshrink.com/blog/children/growing-up-with-a-parent-with-mental-illness.html#comment-1145 Joe Mon, 09 Jun 2008 12:02:37 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/children/growing-up-with-a-parent-with-mental-illness.html#comment-1145 Hi, Cecille-- I have been mean to my spouse during such times, too. My wife used to handle all the finances, but I agreed to take on the chore, because it was a stressor for her. Recently, during a manic episode, she hid our checkbook. After several hours of searching our home, I found it in a drawer I rarely look in under a table cloth. That's just one small example. Living with bipolar becomes awfully stressful for all loved ones. I hope your husband is able to make the leap to gaining some perspective and getting some help. My wife is currently in the hospital - forced there by a court order. I talked with her yesterday. The doctor put her on lithium and Seroquel. She was apologizing to me for all the trouble she caused. It's not her fault. It's the bipolar. I can say that now and sound so sensitive and understanding, but when she was home accusing me of having an affair and being in my face 24/7, and making our lives a living hell, I wasn't exactly the sensitive husband I'd like to be. I hope you and your family the best. I hope your kids get their father back from bipolar and you and your husband see some better days, whether you split up or not. Hi, Cecille–

I have been mean to my spouse during such times, too. My wife used to handle all the finances, but I agreed to take on the chore, because it was a stressor for her. Recently, during a manic episode, she hid our checkbook. After several hours of searching our home, I found it in a drawer I rarely look in under a table cloth. That’s just one small example.

Living with bipolar becomes awfully stressful for all loved ones. I hope your husband is able to make the leap to gaining some perspective and getting some help.

My wife is currently in the hospital - forced there by a court order. I talked with her yesterday. The doctor put her on lithium and Seroquel. She was apologizing to me for all the trouble she caused. It’s not her fault. It’s the bipolar. I can say that now and sound so sensitive and understanding, but when she was home accusing me of having an affair and being in my face 24/7, and making our lives a living hell, I wasn’t exactly the sensitive husband I’d like to be.

I hope you and your family the best. I hope your kids get their father back from bipolar and you and your husband see some better days, whether you split up or not.

]]> By: Cecille http://finkshrink.com/blog/children/growing-up-with-a-parent-with-mental-illness.html#comment-1142 Cecille Mon, 09 Jun 2008 03:07:46 +0000 http://finkshrink.com/blog/children/growing-up-with-a-parent-with-mental-illness.html#comment-1142 Thank you for this article. I am dealing with my ex having some kind of manic disorder and it has caused him not to see our 3 kids much. He use to have them most weekends. But he also suffers from poor judgement and it has been building over the two years we've been separated. He can't manage his own life, let alone 3 kids. But he thinks he can. He can't see his problem. In short, a GAL is involved now and I hope our upcoming divorce gets him to acknowledge his problems. But through all this, our middle child, daughter, 7, has become very angry and blaming me for not seeing daddy. I am mean to him. She doesn't understand and I have had to explain that I want her to see her dad but he is not well and has to get better. O Lordy...just trying to keep it all together. Thanks for listening. Thank you for this article. I am dealing with my ex having some kind of manic disorder and it has caused him not to see our 3 kids much. He use to have them most weekends. But he also suffers from poor judgement and it has been building over the two years we’ve been separated. He can’t manage his own life, let alone 3 kids. But he thinks he can. He can’t see his problem. In short, a GAL is involved now and I hope our upcoming divorce gets him to acknowledge his problems. But through all this, our middle child, daughter, 7, has become very angry and blaming me for not seeing daddy. I am mean to him. She doesn’t understand and I have had to explain that I want her to see her dad but he is not well and has to get better. O Lordy…just trying to keep it all together. Thanks for listening.

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